Original Facebook Post 29 Oct 2020
I learned to stop giving the word "fat" power to hurt me
several years ago, I came across a meme. It was a Whisper confession. And it said *
in that moment, my entire worldview flipped. I am fat. I am short. I am half Korean. I am a Percy Jackson fan. I am divorced. I am lgbtq. I am 185-190lbs on any given day. I have brown eyes.
all of these are facts about me. None of these facts change my worth. None of these facts change whether or not I am beautiful
the other thing I realized is that I have been a size 2 and I have been a size 22
I have value at every size. And as a bonus, there were people who found me attractive, genuinely found me attractive at every dress size.
so if I tell you I am fat, don't tell me I'm not. Because when you tell me I'm not, you are just telling me that there is something negative about fat
Fat is not an insult. Fat is an adjective. just like tall. or short. or pretty. or every subjective adjective out there. And I won't allow it to be weaponized against anyone. Fat is not an indicator of health or worth and I will call out fatphobia and ableism everywhere
and to further that message, I'm posting this picture rather than the original one that changed me (more below picture)
editing 18 May 23 to add a reminder that it's not a one time decision you make. that it's a journey. and sometimes there will be setbacks. as I say in my article, FUPA Isn't A Dirty Word. because no matter how far i've come, growth is not linear. and it's important to know if you still struggle with this, you're not alone. so do I ❤