Why do we shame single mothers and why is "daddy issues" a joke? Because if a woman is a single mother, it's because she wasn't considered "good enough" for the father to stick around
If an adult has "Daddy issues", the focus isn't on the father's behavior. It's mocking children and then the adults they become for being affected by the abuse. They're mocked because they can't handle the way their father treated them. The mindset is that either the father's behavior is considered acceptable and normal OR that the person who actually acknowledges their trauma is weak for not being able to "get over it". Emotions are a weakness.
At the end of the day, the patriarchy says that anything that is not centered on a (particularly white) man's approval or desire is by default, defective. If the woman was good enough, the dad would stick around and raise a his child with her. If the child wasn't so weak, they could handle their daddy's behavior. And yet let's look at what these children go through. This article talks about 8 Shared Traits of Daughters Abandoned by Their Fathers. This article only addresses the effect on girls, but I have to believe that any child would go through something pretty similar
In other words, if another man rejects it, it's because it's unworthy. Not because the man is an asshole. Only things chosen by men have value. It's why we have Pick Me women. We're conditioned to wanting to be chosen because if we aren't chosen, we're mocked.
Feminism means we don't center the male desire or approval and they lose their ever loving minds. Because HOW DARE WE not care what they want or think? How dare we be completely fulfilled without them? How dare we not center them? They've never lived in a world where they weren't centered add religion to that, and we get a complete global meltdown
Move over, Chad. It's our turn.